Finally, I went to the former Amish and asked them.
I'm posting the many comments I received on Facebook about this topic.
For a few years now I've been hearing conflicting stories about the Amish and bed courtship.
Some said it didn't exist anymore and some said it was still being used.
Khazan: Who picked up on the other end when you called? A lady that picked me up from the little town, the day that I left. Khazan: Where did you get your first non-Amish outfit? Khazan: Do you remember the first time you went on the Internet? I had no idea that my grandfather was such a horrible person. Gingerich: Because three of his sisters left, and I’m thinking it was all because of their dad. The people have a choice of staying where they’re at now or they can leave and join a different church, with less rules, I guess. Gingerich: Freedom to be able to go work outside the community, to be able to use a driver to go to work instead of horse and buggy. Gingerich: I had a difficult time speaking English, mainly because I was scared of what I was saying.
Fall communion takes place the following church Sunday.By the time a young woman turns twenty or a young man is in his early twenties, he or she is probably looking forward to the wedding day.But several definite steps must be taken by a couple before they may marry. They are baptized into the Amish faith and are responsible for following the Ordnung.Bundling, or tarrying, is the traditional practice of wrapping one person in a bed accompanied by another, usually as a part of courting behavior.The tradition is thought to have originated either in the Netherlands or in the British Isles and later became common in colonial United States, It is possible the precedent for bundling came from the biblical story of Ruth and Boaz, in which Ruth, a young widow, and Boaz, an older wealthy landowner, spend a night together in a grain storage room while not touching; the pair later get married.