At this point, things are probably starting to get comfortable- you make plans regularly, you’re in contact more frequently, and a relationship seems just around the corner.
Now while you might start getting really excited by this prospect, this particular guy has probably gotten freaked out.
I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.
What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.
It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.
What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.
Today was my birthday and he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday!
I don’t want this anymore but I’m getting mixed advice from people.
Two months ago, I told him I couldn’t do the casual thing anymore and since then things have been heading downhill fast.We connected I think because we like a lot of the same things, similar backgrounds, and I definitely felt a connection between us and when he asked me for my number at the end of the night, I thought nothing of giving it to him.We went on several dates and it was only then that it transpired that he is separated from his wife.It sounds like you’re pissed at him, but there’s a part of you that still wants something to happen and thinks there is a chance. Maybe you just feel like you lost a part of yourself with him… The answer is in finding how to be enough without needing him to do anything in order to feel happy and content with life exactly as it is.When you can find that place within yourself, then dealing with him won’t be an issue.