I’ve always preferred men who chose Brooklyn over Manhattan, and someone in Queens or Hoboken was S. I’m not normally a fan of spouting clichés, but my proclivity for dating the same guy in various slightly morphed forms and expecting something to change was absolutely the definition of insanity. The plan was to hit a dating site, and rather than dismiss 80 percent of the candidates based on my rigorous criteria (some of which included guys who listed Anchorman as their favorite movie, dudes who wear jerseys as shirts, finance guys, and of course, people who live across two rivers in New Jersey) maybe try something a little (or a lot) different. A reformed finance guy, he now crunched numbers in the service of a charitable organization.
Candidate one was a guy living in the Bronx who’d never gone to college – a red flag that would generally send me running for the hills. He was baffled by my surprisingly expansive knowledge of low-, middle-, and high-brow pop culture.
While there is something to be said for dating someone that falls into that category, there are also a number of different benefits of dating someone who is NOT your type that shouldn’t be ignored.
Then again he could be a non-type on the most superficial level, as when your date doesn't add up on your checklist because he's too short, too bald or too fat - not the tall, dark and handsome guy who is the stuff most female fantasies are made of.Reuniting with him helped confirm that my taste in partners has changed.Men who I would have fallen for before no longer pique my interest like they used to, and I find myself attracted to men I might not have noticed before.Having a type helps one to eliminate potential partners you assume you will not be compatible with.However sometimes there is an instant connection and you find yourself falling for someone who doesn’t not quite fit your type. For instance the guy you have fallen for may be completely opposite from your usual choice.